Objective

  • To help the participants to understand the importance of making right choices in life.
  • To give the participants some good principles to guide their choices.

Introduction

‘Sow a thought, reap an act; sow an act, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny’.

We make innumerable choices each day, and we are the sum total of our choices. Most choices that we make have the potential to bring us closer to or take us away from God. The Bible talks about numerous choices, especially in Jesus’ teaching. He talks about the two treasures, the two ways, the two doors, the two masters and the two destinations from which we have to choose. He also tells Martha, that Mary chose the one thing that mattered most.

Some choice-related questions in our lives may have very clear-cut answers in the Bible; they are put in ‘black and white'. But there may be other areas, which are not as clear (the so-called ‘grey’ areas). Even in these difficult choices, we have Biblical principles to guide our decisions.

Case Study

Jerry was a very talented singer and had been popular in college since his first year. He committed his life to Christ in his second year and regularly attended the fellowship. The cultural festival of the college was approaching and Jerry’s classmates wanted him to sing a song for their batch which he felt had ungodly lyrics.

  • What should Jerry do in this situation? What possible help can he get to make a godly choice?
  • What are some of the difficult choices that a student has to make?
  • Have you got any difficult choices that you struggle with?
  • Can you derive a few principles which will help you in making right choices from the references below?
  • 2 Timothy 3:16,17
  • Romans 14:19,
  • 1 Corinthians 6:12
  • 1 Corinthians 8:9, Romans 14:13
  • 1 John 2:6 
  • 1 Corinthians 10:31
  • Romans 14:5,23
  • Romans 14:1,10, 13, 22

Leader’s notes 

  • Jerry could ask the counsel of senior believers. He should not do anything that is against his conscience or his faith. He could think of this as a positive opportunity to get an access to his friends by singing another song with better lyrics.
  • Copying in exams – should I do it for ‘bringing glory to God’s name’?

Ragging – supporting it directly or indirectly

Using internet and TV – how much time and what programmes

Spending time – balancing studies and activities of the fellowship

Obeying parents and honoring them – in some issues if their wish is not godly. Always honor them; obey in the Lord.

  • Encourage participants to share any difficulties in making the right choice –past or present – and also if they have been able to make a godly choice and how. You could give a list of common difficulties and ask them to tick.
  • a. Is it Biblical? First principle would be to look at the choice at hand and whether there is a direct reference in the Bible regarding that. If there is, then that settles the matter. For example, it is clear from the Bible that a believer marrying an unbeliever is dangerous. So, there need not be any confusion in that matter.

b. Will it be spiritually profitable (will it build me or others up) even if it is not wrong? 1 Corinthians 6:12; Romans 14:19, for example, spending time watching cricket.

c. Will it imprison me or master me? 1 Corinthians 6:12, for example playing internet game is relaxing; but getting addicted to it for many hours a day is harmful.

d. Is it going to make another person stumble? 1 Corinthians 8:9; Romans 14:13, for example, choosing which movie to watch.

e. Is there any scope for glorifying God? 1 Corinthians 10:31. For example, I am free to dress the way I like.

f. Am I doing it against my conscience or faith? Romans 14:5, 23. We should not do anything with doubt in our minds whether or not it is right. For instance in Jerry’s case.

g. Do not judge another’s convictions. Romans 14:1, 10, 13, 22. As in, if someone wears only a formal dress to church and another a casual dress; let them not judge each other.

Acknowledgements: http://www.gty.org/resources/Sermons/80-24  cited on 28.01.2012